How to Forgive Self and Others
May 1, 2012 § 1 Comment
As A Course in Miracles states, “Forgiveness is the key to happiness!” No one in this world will ever find happiness and inner peace until they learn to forgive.
The first secret to forgiveness is to realize that mistakes are positive, not negative. Mistakes are teaching devices, so the idea is to learn from them, and as Jesus said, “You are forgiven but sin no more.” So the idea is to learn from our mistakes, forgive ourselves, and try better next time. Mistakes only become “negative” when we don’t learn from them.
The second secret to forgiveness is to realize that when we forgive other people, we are not really doing it for them; we are doing it for ourselves. What requires forgiveness is our misinterpretation of the situation by not looking at it as a teaching device, and by forgetting that there is a difference between a person and a person’s behavior. A person’s behavior, including our own, may be out of line, however, regardless of what we or others do, we and them are still totally loveable because our misbehavior or mistakes have not changed the truth of our identity.
So here is what you should do: Make a list of everyone, including yourself, that needs your forgiveness. Then choose to look at the situation differently. Choose to look at mistakes as something positive, not negative. Choose to understand that forgiving others, in truth, has nothing to do with them. It has to do with correcting faulty thinking within yourself. Why? Because all lessons, in truth, are learned within yourself! So choose to forgive by changing your attitude and interpretation of whatever happened. If you have a situation or person that needs forgiving, it helps to come to these attitudinal conclusions by writing in your journal. Journaling is a great way to clear the mind.
The same applies to self-forgiveness. All your mistakes are forgiven in this very moment. You are not your thoughts, your feelings, your words, or your actions. You are a Child of God, and your mistakes and misbehavior are not held against you. Earth is a school and we learn our lessons by making mistakes and then self-correcting along the way.
The Integrated Ascended Master has total forgiveness and self-forgiveness in his heart. He realizes that in truth everyone is doing the best they can at any given moment in their life. Nobody makes mistakes on purpose.
© 2012, Dr Joshua David Stone and Gloria Excelsias, www.IAMUniversity.org